Acceptance

I'm going to take baby steps.

Today's topic: Acceptance

People try to control everything and in reality we can influence very little.  We try to build damns and the elements cause them to break.  We care so much what others think of us, but  if you think about it for a moment, it's rather pointless.  You will never know what goes on in the head of another.  You cannot read their thoughts.  You can think you perceive their inner thinkings from what you observe, but the reality is you can never really know what they are thinking even if they tell you I am thinking _____________ (fill in the blank as you desire).  So if someone says, "I love you"  accept it to mean they have affection for you.  "I hate you," then perhaps they are angry.  Take it for what it is and nothing more. 

Another thing in terms of acceptance.  It's important to remember that no one can control you.  Too easily do we give up our control for others.  You control your thoughts and feelings.  You are responsible for them, no one else.  Be responsible for yourself, take accountability.  By the same token, do not try to control another.  When you try to take someone's power, you are giving up your own control.  You become obsessed with their inner thoughts, feelings, and actions and in turn you are giving up your own power and control.  Your own moves and thoughts become dictated by the perceived notions of another.  And once again, you don't ever really know what goes on in another person's head. 

I guess one would deviate from hear and discuss the need to trust all.  This is not the point I'm going to make.  I think it is important to learn to accept that all you really can control is yourself, so be the best person you can.  Don't be fake, don't be cruel or mean.  Be loving, be compassionate, respect nature, family, and loyalty.  Live by laws of personal integrity.  On a simple level trust another when they tell you something.  By the same token, it doesn't mean that you should let people control you or be naive.  Perhaps just take life as it comes.  Be smart.