Advice from Mom

My mom has told me multiple times that the single most valuable thing you can give a person is forgiveness and redemption.  

Respect for ourselves guides our morals; respect for others guides our manners. - Laurence Sterne

 If I can only give you one piece of advice it would be to be respectful of yourself and others and to never compromise your morals.  You can make compromises, which is good to do, life needs comprise. However, if someone asks you to dishonor your beliefs they are not friend and most likely foe.  Someone who loves you would never ask you to do such a thing.  Someone who loves you would have the respect for these deep held beliefs that are a critical element in the basis of you.  They would go out of their way to make sure they are respecting your needs above their own base, momentary desires.  There is a reason we learn manners as a child and develop personal moral codes as we grow.  They have impact. 

 Follow your heart, but be quiet for a while first. Ask questions, then feel the answer. Learn to trust your heart.

 And hydrate. 

I have always been one to believe in positive affirmations.  I liked what this person promised to do in 2009:

I resolve to…

• * pick my battles and avoid sweating the small stuff.
• * focus on the positive in my relationship.
• * stop blaming others when I am just as much at fault.
• * stop making assumptions or judgments.
• * stop saying negative thing about any of his family or friends (he can reach his own conclusions—my negative views do nothing for our relationship)."

I think this is good advice for anyone, and everyone to try and follow.  

Remember, there's no way to take your words back once spoken aloud, so think twice before you start wagging your tongue.



"Nothing will work unless you do.” - Maya Angelou 

Words of wisdom

I'm glad you have chosen to live a life that matters....it doesn't happen by accident...it's not just circumstance but the choices we make to get there.....

~ The Godmother

I do agree this is good advice:

I got two pieces of advice I have always remembered. The first was from my father, Charles E. Murphy, who was a justice of the New York State Supreme Court. It was a point about ethics. He said, "Doing the wrong thing is not worth the loss of one night's good sleep."

The other came from Benjamin Selekman, a Harvard Business School professor who taught labor relations. The last thing he said, at his last lecture to my class, was, "Here is something to remember for the rest of your life: Don't spend your time on things you can't control. Instead, spend your time thinking about what you can.

- Thomas S. Murphy, Former CEO, Capital Cities/ABC